Mon
Apr 14 2014 4:20pm

“How Frozen Should Have Ended” Shows Us a Better Way to Bring Up Elsa

How Frozen Should Have Ended

Frozen fandom has pretty much universally decided that Princess Elsa would have been much better off in childhood had her parents... been better at the whole parenting thing? Nothing like having your elders convince you to bottle up your emotions.

But how could they have done better? How It Should Have Ended has the answer.

We’ll just keep our mouths shut because we don’t want to spoil the fun:

...YES.

13 comments
Nicoclaws
1. Nicoclaws
You kinda spoiled it in the opening picture, though.
(still a better ending)
Rich Bennett
2. Neuralnet
LOL, that was well done... I didnt see the ending coming.

my daughter is of the age where our household pretty much has frozen running 24/7 right now... the troll always pisses me off, way to scare the kid into having a complex.
Mani A
3. sn0wcrash
I like where it goes, but am somewhat discomfited by the start - IIRC, it is a native Norwegian tune, and not something that should be out of Lion King
Lauren Hartman
4. naupathia
@3 Maybe it is Norwegian, but it certainly does make me think "Lion King". Maybe that speaks more to the style of music in Lion King.

I still think the point that it doesn't fit is sound though.

As to the ending, so very yes.
Lisamarie LiGreci-Newton
5. Lisamarie
In defense of the parents, when the troll was talking about fear, he then hilights it by showing a mob tearing Elsa apart. Way to be ambiguous.

I'm kind of weary of the whole "ELSA'S PARENTS ARE ABUSIVE" thing going around. Mother Gothel was abusive. Elsa's parents - while they definitely made the wrong decisions, and that had a bad impact on their children, which I do not want to minimize - were making the decision they could based on the information they had. Obviously, they should have worked on helping her control and integrate her powers and emotions instead of assuming control=suppression, but I don't think that means they are 'abusive'. There are definitely decisions my parents made that had a negative impact on me, but I know they were doing their best and I was raised in a loving home.

Also, Elsa is the one who started to push them away, refuse contact, etc. - they didn't lock her in her room or refuse to hug her, etc, which I've seen some people argue.

But, yes, I loved this :) And yay Nightcrawler :)
Nicoclaws
6. Frozen Fan
I think there is some waaaay overthinking/overanalyzing of this movie going on!!
Nicoclaws
7. Random22
6: People on the internet overthinking things? That's un-possible!
Nicoclaws
8. MrsM
'm not sure where you're getting "Lion King" from...Norwegian musical style and African/South Tribal style don't sound that much alike. Unless you're daying that anything with a driven, 4 set (sometome sincopated) beat sounds like "Lion King". Though your comment does speak to how prolific that movie is.

Also, this shit is hilarious...I loved the nod to Hugh Jackman's musical nature at the end!
Tyson Oliver
10. blondetiger
@Frozen Fan
I watched Frozen for the first time a week ago. Not everyone analyzes movies but as a psychology nerd I know that what we consume affects us and what we create reflects us. So I love analyzing movies and books and stories as much as I love consuming them. Critical thinking is fun (to me) and it stretches my brain. Don't do it if you don't like it, but don't whine when we do it.

@Lisamarie
"Elsa is the one who started to push them away, refuse contact, etc. - they didn't lock her in her room or refuse to hug her"

Children don't need to be explicitly told or shown something to learn it. If Elsa's parents were confused, worried, and fearful over Elsa's powers, Elsa didn't need to be told that they felt this way to know that they felt this way as it's pretty easy even for children to pick up from tone, actions, and phrasing. Also, children usually blame themselves for things that upset their parents even when it is wholly unconnected to the child.

Which means Elsa LEARNED to push others away, refuse contact, and lock herself in her room. The troll's words would not have been enough on their own/if her parents handled it well. No, she picked it up when her parents locked up the castle gates, got rid of most of the servants, and told her to hide her powers, even from Anna, until she learned to control them. Was that not a clear indication to a child (what, 7 year old?) to stay away from people? To hide in her room so her sister and the servants never know? To not even touch others? (that last one probably stemmed more from the gloves, but still)

Her parents never said "it's not your fault" (as far as we can tell). Because you know, it wasn't Elsa's fault. She was just a kid. Someone on the Youtube comments said "they should have told her no using powers without adult supervision". And that IS the thing to do, isn't it? Little kids doing potentially dangerous things like climbing on the playground and ice skating usually has adult supervision. Most falls and hurts are minor but "once in awhile" is not a risk I would take. Now, that may not have been enough to STOP Elsa's powers or teach her parents how to help her control them, but it certainly would have been more beneficial to Elsa's development than "never until you can do it right!"

So I have little sympathy for Elsa's parents. She was born with her powers so they were not new to the situation. Only a little imagination is needed to realize your 3 year old's ability to make snowflakes might be problematic and dangerous down the road. Elsa was a child with special needs and her parents didn't EVER seek help for her. They knew to go to the trolls the second Anna was hurt... even if they weren't sure the trolls were there or existed, that was still something they did for the first time in all the years they had Elsa. And there must have been other ways to seek help. They could have even gone back to visit the trolls for more guidance but there is no indication of that in the movie. Basically, the parents not knowing how to get Elsa to control her powers wasn't the problem. It was them not searching for someone who did know or could help because "hiding" it was more important to them.

Nonetheless, it wasn't abuse, that would be damaging verbal or physical action. However, it WAS neglect as they failed to take care of Elsa's emotional needs. I don't think Elsa really knew she was loved by her parents, at least at that point. When you nearly kill your little sister, you're parents need to SAY that they still love you or your little developing child brain won't get it. Also, she was no longer allowed to be a child and simply play and make mistakes. She was pushed into adulthood loooong before her parents died. Overdoing can be as bad as underdoing it in parenting. And yeah, maybe her parents had shitty parents too, they were royals and were taught to control themselves in public and blah blah blah. In which case, they WERE doing the best they could... but that doesn't mean their best was "good enough" parenting.
Nicoclaws
11. CatharinaG
Sigh. Charles Xavier wouldn't know what to do with a child! I know that Arendelle is technically in Durmstrang's "jurisdiction," but since they won't admit Muggle borns I'm sure Hogwarts will make an exception for Elsa. Who would we need to talk to about that.....hmmmm. You think McGonagall is still Headmistress?
Nicoclaws
12. Bethany B.
And let's not forget the disservice they did Ana by not giving her any reason for why she wasn't able to play with her sister anymore. Just about any illness back then could have been used as an excuse since society was pretty medically clueless. Instead they allowed Ana to languish, feeling abandoned by her sister, with no friends her own age to play with.

Also, since Ana's brain didn't freeze up and kill her when she did find out about Elsa, the removal of that bit of information was unnecessary.
Nicoclaws
13. Sharon Bennett
I just finished watching "Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade". At the ending a beautiful woman "Elsa" is reaching for the Holy Grail when Indiana Jones couldn't hold her and she slips to her death. Indiana Jones trys to reach for the holy cup as his father tries to hold him and as he reaches and almost slips to his death is father says "let it go"...... Could this be a coinscience?

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